angry & afraid! 2007.01.04
Posted by Hakuna in ohana ("family"), social commentary.2 comments
i just read an editorial in the new york times that left me angry and afraid! the author, lawrence downes — a parent of a middle school-aged girl — reflects on a recent outing with his daughter to her middle school talent show:
The scene is a middle school auditorium, where girls in teams of three or four are bopping to pop songs at a student talent show. Not bopping, actually, but doing elaborately choreographed re-creations of music videos, in tiny skirts or tight shorts, with bare bellies, rouged cheeks and glittery eyes.
They writhe and strut, shake their bottoms, splay their legs, thrust their chests out and in and out again. Some straddle empty chairs, like lap dancers without laps. They don’t smile much. Their faces are locked from grim exertion, from all that leaping up and lying down without poles to hold onto. “Don’t stop don’t stop,” sings Janet Jackson, all whispery. “Jerk it like you’re making it choke. …Ohh. I’m so stimulated. Feel so X-rated.” The girls spend a lot of time lying on the floor. They are in the sixth, seventh and eighth grades.
i’m afraid because kyra is only eight now but sixth grade is just 2-1/2 years away! she is vivacious, charismatic and thankfully, still innocent. that innocence is part of the gift of youth, but increasingly, it seems like innocence is stolen at earlier and earlier ages in our society. why is there this obsession in our culture for children — especially girls — to look and act older than they really are?
i am angry because if media (hollywood and mtv) is hell-bent on driving our culture in this direction, where are the parents? when i read the editorial above, i thought that the girls must have been rebellious youth who surprised and shocked the audience and faculty of the school by this performance. sadly, this was not the case because mr. downes reports:
As each routine ends, parents and siblings cheer, whistle and applaud.
i know that i cannot keep my little girl my “little girl” forever. i want to see her grow and develop into a young woman who will bless and transform the world! it appears that my spouse and i should expect little help from our schools, society and culture in nurturing her into this type of young adult.
is anyone else out there fearful and upset? i certainly hope so.
race matters! 2007.01.31
Posted by Hakuna in ethnicity & culture, racism, social commentary.3 comments
i came across an article in the new york times yesterday that reminded me of why we must continue to be vigilant in our advocacy of those who are different from the norm or dominant group — in our context here in north america, that means white european north americans.
most white north americans believe that we live life on a level playing field. in the u.s., that means that all americans are afforded the same opportunities and that with enough will and determination, any american can achieve anything. my mom tells me that when i was born, her father (my grandfather) called from okinawa and commented with admiration that i could someday be president of the united states because i was born in the u.s. his sentiment reflects this traditional american belief and value.
we (as americans) want to believe this about ourselves and this is most true for those of the dominant ethnic group because to believe otherwise would disrupt the status quo. the dynamics of dominant and sub-dominant in a system are not unique to north america so i want to emphasize that this is not a commentary on european americans as a people group. one can see this dynamic play itself out virtually every system in the world.
this short article at nytimes.com reported a recent study which showed that a primary factor in income for immigrants was the amount of melanin in one’s skin. in other words, how light or dark one’s skin is has a significant impact on one’s earning potential. “how significant an impact?” you ask. so much so that one shade lighter in skin tone has about the same impact “as having an additional year of education.” the study found that those with the lightest skin earned an average of 8 to 15 percent more than similar immigrants with much darker skin.
as an american, i am thankful and proud to live in a country that values freedom and equality! but “liberty and justice for all” is something we need to aspire to and and not something we have already achieved. it is not a reality that we enjoy today or have ever enjoyed in our country’s history.